Coming from the lies that exist at the core of toxic family systems, we learned not to speak our truth. Not because our truth was wrong, but because we learned that our truth was disruptive to the dysfunction of the family system.
Psychologically abusive families function on lies, denial, and justifications of all their abusive treatment, actions and behaviors. They make themselves right in situations where they are so wrong. Our toxic family members lie the most deeply to themselves, preferring to see themselves as good and moral people. We know this is a false identity when we live with these people and see how disgustingly they treat people and view the world.
The issue is, they aren’t interested in truth or healing. We learn that if we say what we need to say to avoid a backlog of hurt creating larger conflicts down the road, we get punished. We learn to keep our truths inside. However, this backlog of things that need to be said keeps building, and eventually inspires us to leave our toxic family behind so we can find relationships that allow us to be fully expressed and accepted for who we are.
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