Charlie McCready – Who benefits from Parental Alienation?

Lawyers, Therapist

The Latin phrase “qui bono,” translating to “who benefits?” in English, serves as a guiding principle in seeking to uncover hidden motives that might not be immediately apparent. By examining the interests and advantages of different parties involved, this principle can offer valuable insights into the underlying dynamics and motivations at play, enabling a more comprehensive understanding of complex situations. ⁠

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An alienating parent could appear to be the only one benefitting from their tactics and refusal to co-parent, their aim being to eradicate the other parent from not only their life but the child’s life too. An alienating parent exploits the vulnerabilities within family dynamics for personal gain, gaining control over the narrative and the child’s perception and actions. The child does not benefit from this, even though they will be emotionally manipulated to believe it is in their best interests. This control provides the alienating parent with a sense of power and dominance over both the child and the targeted parent. Also, by leveraging the child emotionally, they garner sympathy, support, and even financial advantages from various sources, reinforcing their behaviour as they cast themselves as victims and the targeted parent as the villain.⁠

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Isolation (triangulation/divide and rule) becomes a tool in the alienating parent’s arsenal, emotionally and psychologically separating the child from the targeted parent. This isolation, rather than being detrimental, intensifies the emotional bond between the alienating parent and the child, fulfilling the parent’s need for validation and companionship.⁠

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In legal battles parental alienation serves as a strategic advantage. By alienating the child, the manipulative parent can present themselves as the stable, caring figure, influencing court decisions in their favour and gaining an upper hand in custody disputes.

For people with narcissistic tendencies, parental alienation offers psychological gratification. The ability to control and manipulate, especially their own children, provides a sense of power that becomes addictive, again reinforcing their alienating behaviours.

Understanding these benefits – qui bono – is vital for professionals, family members, and courts involved in such cases. Awareness of the manipulative tactics employed by alienating parents is crucial. This awareness can empower people to devise strategies that safeguard the child’s well-being and promote a healthy relationship with the targeted parent. By fostering an environment where the child can thrive emotionally and psychologically, interventions can mitigate the damaging effects of parental alienation.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser .. View all posts by GreatCosmicMothersUnited