These are so good, and I wish I’d been informed that Dad was suffering with this . It didn’t become a diagnosis until he had an accident then it was clearer to all I had tried to assist in his wellbeing.
He’d had dangerous falls, and I noted the bruising, but he wasn’t sharing . He forgot my birthday , but marked his calendar with Dr appointments . He did not want to loose his independence , but was driving and having minor accidents , blaming the other car driver .
His pots and pans had to be replaced , he was leaving things on the stove too long . He did not want assisted living , and had a very legitimate fear of nursing homes .
His sons talked him into the nursing home Thanksgiving 2011, after planning to spend the holiday at home with his local kids .
His life turned into a real shit show , as his sons took over his care, not wanting to spend his money on his best care , and neglecting him in that nursing home , then taking him in and neglecting him there as well, while plotting to have him change his will, in a way he never would have consented to in his balanced state of mind .
He certainly deserved better, and I have nothing but respect for his efforts to have dignity and peace which were forfeited in the need for control and greed , for which there is always payback..
I know he’s with me still in spirit , and he will settle things out as he wanted them to be .
The in and out of Dementia is scary , he had anger , he was docile , he laughed and was more open in our communication that ever .
Asking me what I would do without him here , told him he was in my heart and in my head always , he was just leaving his body.
I noted the refrigerator had less food in it , and his consumption of water declined .
Staying with him, I began to get his house in order and discovered he woke early , did a breathing treatment and took his morning meds and returned to sleep.
When he woke , he repeated the same medications. One if not more of these medications was in different doses and he took both .
He replaced his roof, and heat pump , in preparing which he wasn’t conscious of , for his exit .
Under brothers ” management ” the house was uninsured , and a ” break in ” occurred and copper pipes and heat pump etc were stolen.
I was informed I would have to pay for replacements … I was not amused and did not pay .
I informed them of probating Dad’s will , sending legitimate info and that was done between the brothers .
Cheating me out of monies and properties , suggesting fairness to the youngest child , and never giving her a dime, they paid the travel expenses for Dad’s funeral.
His house was ravaged of items before I was allowed in, after his death , his safety deposit box was opened , cash in his house disappeared, and I was threatened with physical harm if I dared dispute brothers .
His death announcement was incorrect and I was threatened with being bared from his funeral .
So yes, spiritually I know he still has my back , he saw clearly the agenda of his sons , and he will avenge the abuses and the abusers .
Please be watchful of your elders and utilize these suggestions ..
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