Tuesday Teachings
So many of us were given the role of the family fixer. Whenever our family members were unhappy it somehow became our responsibility to make them happy. We learned that we could not be happy until they were happy.
This role is exhaustive and unrewarding because we have no power to change anyone but ourselves. The family fixer will run out of the motivation to keep this role, preferring to be cut off from the family for no longer showing up for a job they never applied for or wanted.
For my family fixers, you are meant for far greater things than acting as an emotional slave or emotional janitor to emotionally irresponsible people. No amount of your working tirelessly to fix things has ever proven to make your dysfunctional family members any happier with any consistency. It hasn’t changed anything or anyone for the better. If you have run out of gas for this, good. It’s your time.
Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited
I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse.
As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my
desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven.
I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are
denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child.
I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power..
I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination..
Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative".
It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..
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