Drained by a toxic family member- Sherrie Campbell Ph D

Tuesday Teachings

When someone is draining you dry emotionally, you find that all your thoughts are consumed by them. You fear them, you can’t ever predict them, and you find yourself doing things you would rather not do just to keep the peace.

It’s a hard reality to accept that certain people will never be satisfied with anyone, especially those they feel the closest to. The title “family” creates a space where abuses are justified and considered necessary; whereas, these same forms of treatment would be punishable outside of the title of family.

A toxic family member’s goal is to get in your head, make you question yourself, make you feel guilty when you have done nothing wrong, and to punish you for crimes you did not commit. They project all of their own foul behaviors onto you and label you the perpetrator.

The more you try and fight this craziness, they more drained you become. This is why it is always best to set boundaries and walk away from engaging in one non-productive fight after another.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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