The word respect in a toxic family equates to obey. It has nothing to do with holding someone in high esteem or in admiration of their most outstanding and beautiful qualities. In psychologically abusive families, respect is demanded rather than earned.
This is why these types of family systems are so dysfunctional. When respect is demanded but not given or reciprocated, we come to deeply despise those power-holders who are demanding the respect. In toxic families respect is used to create “good guys” and “bad guys.”
When respect is used as a threat, rather than taught and modeled as a value, respect cannot be developed. It is impossible to like, respect or trust a person who demands a respect they do not give. The mindset to hold is that the more someone demands your respect the, less they earn it, and the less they deserve it.
Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited
I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse.
As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my
desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven.
I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are
denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child.
I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power..
I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination..
Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative".
It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..
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