Toxic Families- Respect for the Abuser

Sherrie Campbell PhD

Absolutely true

Highly dysfunctional families have a unilateral definition of respect. Respect in these relationships flows one-way and serves only the most toxic person. Our perpetrating family members feel totally entitled to the utmost respect, even as they are showing zero respect for anyone else.

A difficult habit to break is to stop ourselves from acting act on the impulse to try and win their respect. We want to win their respect because we want to feel that our voice is in equal value to theirs. We desire this because this would be healthy.

When respect is not about loving and honoring another’s voice, but is made to be about one person’s prideful arrogant demands, we must come to understand that this type of disrespect is not a measure of our worth, but rather a sign of their poor character.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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