Hi everyone, I just wanted to give an update on my last post for those who followed and commented… I ended up cancelling my flight because my dad said his family is against him seeing me and won’t let him spend time with me. He is easily manipulated and can’t take a stand of his own probably due to past unhealed wounds and I don’t blame him. His family uses his past against him to control his decisions.
We had a perfect reunion planned out but his family decided to interfere to cause an issue over him Booking my hotel so he was stuck in the middle… his daughter clearly told me I shouldn’t be coming into their lives to destroy their family…. I live 8000 miles away, how can I possible destroy their family? All I wanted was to reconnect with my father and to hear his side of the story. She told since I know his side that I should just leave him alone.
She told me I’m too late to be reconnecting with him… is there a timeline to reconnect with your estranged parent if you were alienated at a young child and didn’t have the mental capacity to make your own decisions? My mom controlled most of my decisions well into adulthood, it wasn’t until she started causing issues in my own marriage that I realized I need to put a stop to this and that’s how I felt the need to hear my dad’s story.
First I was stopped by my mother and now Im being stopped by his family.
His daughter told me that they gave his dad an ultimatum to choose between them or me, he needs to choose one so therefore I am currently blocked on his phone. He is obviously going to choose his current family.
Growing up and until now, I was given the same ultimatum by my mother that I can only
Choose 1 parent in my life.
The worst thing you can do to any parent or child is to ask them to choose between their children or choose between a parent.
That is manipulation and mental torture, do not ever do that to anyone you love.
I am heartbroken that his family has manipulated him and has threatened to leave him if he keeps in touch with me. I also made it very clear that I want nothing to do with any of the inheritance.
My dad finally messaged me on my husband’s phone and told me that from now on I should be contacting him through my husband’s phone.
Am I ever going to be able to see my dad?
What else can I do to make things better for him? Please don’t tell me to walk away , I’m not willing to give up on him. I’ve already lost many years.
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