When you decide to end things with the narcissist, they view this as direct confrontation.
They might contact your employer or the people in your church, or they may saturate your circle of friends so they can cut you off at the pass.
Now that they can’t control you, their main focus is changing how other people perceive you, and this can include your own children. They will do everything in their power to take you down and destroy your life.
This is when they will start their mission of sabotage on steroids. They’ll ramp up their smear campaign against you (which has already been going on a while behind your back), push all your button to make you seem crazy, and sabotage your career, your hobbies, and your friendships.
You are now their mortal enemy. No ending things civilly or diplomatically. No chance of staying (true) friends. They might pretend they’re going to be flexible and friendly about it, but prepare yourself…because they are planning your ultimate annihilation.
But, you can still walk away powerfully. Don’t fall for their tricks or lies.