In the wake of toxic relationships, it often feels impossible to find healthy dating prospects or even to expect that there are healthy people in the world!
As someone who’s been through the dark night of narcissistic abuse and made ALL the mistakes possible, I can tell you almost exactly how we women show up in relationships if we haven’t done enough healing work.
- Thinking that men who say they only want “something casual” might eventually change their minds if we “play our cards right”
- Trying hard to come across as low-maintenance so that you don’t push him away unwittingly
- Pretending that you’re okay with “go with the flow” when what you really want is a commitment
- Offering to help with a project he’s working on – when you barely know him
- Trying to be chill when he mentions p*rn
- Going along with his lifestyle choices that are out of alignment with your own
And then, after entering into a relationship, becoming exactly who and what he wants so you can keep him.
This is why it’s so important to know who you are and build a strong identity after toxic relationships. Because if you don’t have a strong identity going in, you will go along with things that hurt you and you’ll settle for way less than you deserve.
Before you know it, you’ll realize you’re in a relationship with someone who’s, at the very least, emotionally immature and unavailable or, at worst, a narcissistic abuser.
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