Many narcissists start setting up “their new life” long before divorce proceedings. You are likely a good-natured, trusting person who wouldn’t consider doing the wrong thing.
Yet the narcissist has no problem, for months or even years: –
❌ siphoning money out of the marriage to put in other bank accounts,
❌ transferring things into other people’s names,
❌ start hiding income,
❌ enlisting minions against you,
and all sorts of other assorted sordid tricks that will blow your mind.
What may also horrify you is that they already have a new love partner ready for them to move in with. How you can be dismissed, replaced and brutalised, when divorcing a narcissist will leave you reeling. This is totally normal and to be expected.
The truth sets us free, and it saves our lives emotionally and even literally. I’m not telling you this stuff to scare you; I’m telling it to warn you and to be prepared. Because rule number 1 is: STOP expecting this person to be honest, fair, sentimental, or do the right thing.
When divorcing a narcissist, some people are past the heartbreak and trauma of losing the person they believed was their soul mate. That wasn’t me, and maybe that’s not you.
If we are still emotionally connected, we are in for a very hard time. We will cling to sentimentality and be triggered into intense devastation when the narcissist acts without a shred of love or kindness. We may still hope for reconciliation and maybe impervious to being manipulated into deals in the narcissist’s favour.
Even for those who are long past the feelings of longing and love, the shock is still intense that a person we once shared our life with has the capacity for deception, maliciousness and total indifference to our needs, feelings or ability to generate our future life.
Divorcing a narcissist? Check out these resources to help you –
⚖️ How To Divorce A Narcissist And Win – https://bit.ly/3g0eiOk
⚖️ How To Divorce A Narcissist Part 1 – https://bit.ly/3ihyIoN
⚖️ How To Divorce A Narcissist Part 2 – https://bit.ly/2Tsdh9U
⚖️ How To Beat The Narcissist In A Divorce – Interview With An Expert Rebecca Zung – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oR6CXn63mdo
Facing the narcissist in court?
⚖️ 6 Things To Look Out For During Court Battles With A Narcissist -https://bit.ly/3ibdl8p
⚖️ Watch This Before Fighting A Narcissist In Court – https://bit.ly/3iaG6lC
And use the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (https://bit.ly/34E75xQ) to give you the emotional support to get you through this.
Much love xo ❤️