Narcissist start early planning their new ” happy” life

Many narcissists start setting up “their new life” long before divorce proceedings. You are likely a good-natured, trusting person who wouldn’t consider doing the wrong thing.

Yet the narcissist has no problem, for months or even years: –
❌ siphoning money out of the marriage to put in other bank accounts,
❌ transferring things into other people’s names,
❌ start hiding income,
❌ enlisting minions against you,
and all sorts of other assorted sordid tricks that will blow your mind.

What may also horrify you is that they already have a new love partner ready for them to move in with. How you can be dismissed, replaced and brutalised, when divorcing a narcissist will leave you reeling. This is totally normal and to be expected.

The truth sets us free, and it saves our lives emotionally and even literally. I’m not telling you this stuff to scare you; I’m telling it to warn you and to be prepared. Because rule number 1 is: STOP expecting this person to be honest, fair, sentimental, or do the right thing.

When divorcing a narcissist, some people are past the heartbreak and trauma of losing the person they believed was their soul mate. That wasn’t me, and maybe that’s not you.

If we are still emotionally connected, we are in for a very hard time. We will cling to sentimentality and be triggered into intense devastation when the narcissist acts without a shred of love or kindness. We may still hope for reconciliation and maybe impervious to being manipulated into deals in the narcissist’s favour.

Even for those who are long past the feelings of longing and love, the shock is still intense that a person we once shared our life with has the capacity for deception, maliciousness and total indifference to our needs, feelings or ability to generate our future life.

Divorcing a narcissist? Check out these resources to help you –

⚖️ How To Divorce A Narcissist And Win –
⚖️ How To Divorce A Narcissist Part 1 –
⚖️ How To Divorce A Narcissist Part 2 –
⚖️ How To Beat The Narcissist In A Divorce – Interview With An Expert Rebecca Zung –

Facing the narcissist in court?

⚖️ 6 Things To Look Out For During Court Battles With A Narcissist -
⚖️ Watch This Before Fighting A Narcissist In Court –

And use the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program ( to give you the emotional support to get you through this.

Much love xo ❤️

Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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