Wisdom born of Pain

Sherrie Campbell PhD

It takes time for wisdom to develop because wisdom is almost always developed through pain. Empathetic people seem to learn the hard way because we are drawn to want to help others. It’s a beautiful thing to help and support other healthy people. However, the trap comes when we get stuck trying to help a toxic person.

Toxic people cannot be helped and not because they can’t be helped but because they do not want to be helped. It will not matter how reasonable your insights may be. They will not care. They have zero capacity for empathy. If someone has zero capacity for empathy, this also means they have zero capacity for insight.

Without insight there is no option for change. Toxic people like being how they are, or they would change. They get what they want, when they want it and they do not care about the collateral damage it causes to others or their relationships to get what they want. All people are replaceable to a toxic person. Hold the wisdom that you deserve far better than this.

Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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