Separation

I digressed in forward motion for a lot of reasons ; but I was clear and still am that relationships must be reciprocal, healing has begun for Beloved and he sees and knows me .

Abandonment was huge for me for decades but that’s just showing up as discernment and with the exception of landlords who reveal themselves as less than honestly , compassionate or humanely motivated .

I don’t allow disrespect or endangerment in a home situation and haven’t lived with anyone for several decades . I don’t have anyone to separate from and I’m good with that !

The Final Separation between partners after a long relationship is difficult, not just emotionally but also physiologically.

Throughout the relationship, even one with problems, both individuals activate neural networks that produce chemical neurotransmitters and peptides, giving their experiences a certain emotional tone and reinforcing their personalities.

The two become so accustomed to the relationship that, even when they decide to end it, they cannot immediately destroy the neural connections and chemical attachments between them.

After the breakup, memories of their experiences remind the body that it is now deprived of its usual chemical stimulation.

The pain of ending a relationship can be caused by the interruption of a neurological habit.

Considering the chemistry of emotional dependence, it’s no surprise that so many couples break up, reunite, and then repeat the cycle.

We may separate from others, but we remain chemically dependent on the emotional states generated by the relationship, at least for a period of time.

When we feel a certain attraction toward a partner, we are convinced that they are the right one for us.

However, most of the time, the person we are drawn to reflects the unresolved emotional wounds we carry.

Often, when we feel a strong attraction to someone, it’s not just hormones at play- we are intuitively drawn to partners because we subconsciously believe they will help us resolve our emotional issues, even ones we are unaware of.

The more abandoned we feel, the more we are attracted to people who tend to abandon those who care about them.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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