Learning this years ago, really was upsetting , as when I was birthing and raising our sons , Dr Spock , advised letting baby cry for 15 minutes before you attend to them…
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but your baby is not peacefully drifting off to sleep when they finally stop crying after you leave them alone to “self-soothe”…
Babies cannot self soothe, this is part of the developmental stage of emotional regulation, which does not occur until age 3–4.
What happens is, they think no one is coming for them so their body shuts down to conserve energy. They are in survival mode.
Sources:
M A Hofer. Acta Paediatr Suppl. 1994 Jun.
Dr. Margot Sunderland
Prof. Helen Ball, Ph.D., MA, BSC.
Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited
I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse.
As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my
desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven.
I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are
denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child.
I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power..
I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination..
Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative".
It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..
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