Messiness of Relationships- Kim Saeed

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The phrase, ‘relationships are messy’ doesn’t mean holding space or grace for toxic and manipulative relationship dynamics. Instead, it emphasizes the complexity and unpredictability inherent in any relationship, acknowledging that they involve a myriad of emotions, communication styles, and individual differences.

It’s crucial to distinguish between the normal ups and downs that can occur in any relationship and behaviors that are harmful or manipulative. Holding space for the messiness of relationships doesn’t mean turning a blind eye to toxicity or excusing manipulative behaviors. In fact, recognizing and addressing unhealthy dynamics is an integral part of fostering healthy connections.

By emphasizing the messiness of relationships, we acknowledge the need for understanding, patience, and open communication. However, this should never be misconstrued as an invitation to tolerate harm or compromise one’s well-being. Healthy relationships thrive on mutual respect, trust, and a commitment to growth and understanding, while toxic dynamics can erode the foundation of a relationship.

Embracing the messiness of relationships underscores the need for empathy and patience in navigating the challenges that arise naturally. Yet, it’s imperative to draw a clear line between the normal complexities of human connection and behaviors that are detrimental to our emotional and mental well-being. Recognizing and addressing toxicity ensures that the essence of holding space for the messiness of relationships remains grounded in the pursuit of healthy and fulfilling connections.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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