Never saying I’m sorry – Toxic Family Members – Sherrie Campbell PhD

He did say I’m sorry, once … “ blame me for everything “ was his next part of his apology

It is very difficult to heal from apologies you never received. Apologies for the lies, the manipulation, the emotional abuse, the neglect, the physical, sexual, and financial abuse. The apologies for being able to hurt you in any way, especially because you are their family.

Toxic family members don’t apologize. They do not take ownership of the emotional wounding they cause to you. They would rather die and go to their grave than to apologize and actually take accountability for who they are and the damage they have caused. In their mind, the way they have treated you is your fault. Convenient.

You must move on without these apologies. Even if they apologized, it would be likely have a dig attached to it such as “sorry you’re so sensitive.” The mindset to hold is that it is possible to heal without the apologies you deserves to receive. Healing is an inside job and is directed more by your efforts and personal work than apologies from people who are not sorry. .

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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