Non changing family members Sherrie Campbell PhD

One of the most profound moments in our healing journey is when we get to the point where we are done waiting for our family members to change. We have hung in there for decades, tried everything to stay connected, to come upon one failure after another, with that failure being at our expense.

Self-sacrifice never worked for them, and it certainly never worked for us. There was no positive return. Our family members make it clear that they will never change. It is not because they can’t change. It is because they don’t want to.

When we are worn to the bone, we stop hoping for them to wake up. We accept that change will not come from them, so we start changing ourselves instead. We change our choices for healthier ones. We change patterns of self-sacrifice that no longer serve us. We choose to live in alignment with what makes us healthy, what makes us happy and what brings us peace, love, and joy. This is power.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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