Denial & Deflection – Sherrie Campbell, PhD

Denial and deflection are the easiest ways our family members bait us into unending debates. They are genius at escalating small issues into monumental abuses. Whether they shut you out to make you feel abandoned or whether they become volatile and emotionally violent, the result is the same.

You are left feeling emotionally paralyzed, hurt, confused, demeaned and minimized to the most important people in your life. You work hard to try and reconcile all that is happening, only to come up feeling even more defeated.

To feel unimportant is disastrous to the human spirit. So, at first you try harder to be someone they can like. You start shape-changing to gain their acceptance. Even that won’t work. The teaching to take is attempts at repairs cannot work when the problem is not with you.

Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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