Re parent self

Childhood emotional development lays the foundation for: adult relationships, our own self worth, plus the overall belief of what “love” looks like.

Reparenting ourselves (learning how to set boundaries + how to meet our own needs) is something most of us didn’t learn in childhood.

Because I didn’t learn these skills, I found myself in relationships plus situations where I was always fawning (people pleasing), ignoring my needs, plus playing the role of caretaker in my relationships.

This is not true emotional connection which is why these relationships always feel so lonely + unfulfilling.
If you’re just starting to reparent yourself, the VERY first step is getting to know yourself. Spending time with just you. Learning your own preferences, finding your interests, honoring what brings you joy.

In chaotic or dysfunctional homes, children are taught to people please. To put others before themselves. To default to other people. In this environment, there is a lack of sense of self. “Self” only comes through what other people think of us or how other people make us feel.

Get to know YOU. Learn your own inner voice. Sit with the difficult emotions that come when we stop people pleasing for love

The Holistic Psychologist

Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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