Fear is the final frontier…to explore, not conquer.
I’ve recently fallen in love with fear. It’s a powerful force.
It doesn’t discriminate. It’s nuanced, complex, and can sustain itself for years when ignored.
It’s omnipresent and omniscient.
I realize my fondness of fear is unique.
Others talk about overcoming fear, or channeling your fear, or acknowledging it, but stuffing it in the trunk of your car on your road trip through life. It’s often viewed as a nuisance to
be avoided at all costs.
I think there is a different way to work with your fears.
One that is enlightening, empowering and most importantly, healing.
When I think about fear, I hear the words of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.,
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive
out hate; only love can do that.”
And so it is with fear.
What if your fear was not something to conquer, but something to embrace?
What if your fear was not something to be irritated by, but something to love?
What if your fear was not something that held you back, but something that liberated you?
Deep inside of your fear lies an emotion, something that is seeking acknowledgment, and acceptance, and love.
When you ignore your fear and just keep on moving without fully acknowledging it, you create resistance. And what you resist, persists.
Instead of unintentionally fueling your fear, work with it so that it can release its grip and
you can be liberated by the light of truth.
1. Get quiet, meditate or breathe deeply to calm the mind.
2. Ask, “What unacknowledged emotion lies deeply underneath this fear? What am I really afraid of?? And what about that am I afraid of? And what about that am I afraid of?”
Keep digging until you are confident you’ve hit the root. You’ll know when you’ve hit truth in your body. It’s an undeniable feeling.
3. Then, “What do I wish to be changed? What wants acceptance?” This helps to identify what you are resisting
4. Followed by, “Can I embrace this with love?” Send all the love and compassion you can muster right to the center of whatever needs acceptance.
5. And finally, “What beliefs and attitudes am I holding about this?” Write these down. Look at them. See the story for what it is – a story.
Can you now see why I’m in love with fear?
I believe all emotions are great teachers, but fear may be the greatest of them all.
Just imagine for a moment what you could learn, what you could accept, and how empowered you would feel once you knew that with practice, you could release the strength of your fears.
So grab a journal, a pen and find a quiet place.
Say, “Hello fear. I see you. I feel you, and I’m ready to get to know you!”
And if you want some support releasing your fears, just comment or email me and let me know. We can love your fears together.