Inheritance of Emotional Wounds : Meditation is but 1 “ tool “ towards healing

A child’s deepest emotional wounds are typically inherited from the parents – but it is not the parents’ fault.

Here’s How It Happens:

Every family has a certain sensibility around what is “normal and good” and what is not. When a child strays outside this zone, the parents will guide her back, which is fine—but then there is a vast range of styles and values around how to get this done.

How does a family get its kids back into the desired zone? Does it use patient explanations? Does it allow for questioning and discussion?

Or does it use sarcasm and ridicule? Does it use physical violence? Does it use shame?

Or does it demand a “perfect image” in front of friends and outsiders? And hold “perfection and success” as a condition for “earning love”?

Every family will have a “typical mode” of how it teaches values and enforces behavior. And if the normal mode of a family makes heavy use of unquestionable, unexplained rules, shame, sarcasm and violence – or even “perfection and achievement” as ways to “earn love” – then a powerful inner voice of “never good enough” will develop as a result.

This harsh, bullying inner voice will then be active in the mind, long after the child has grown up — and even after her parents have passed on. The self-negative voice lives on in the mind, wreaking havoc on health and home – even spreading to ones own children – until the person is able to pin it down, and self-heal it.

Who’s to blame in all this?

Since this self-negative inner voice must be inherited in order to be passed on, it is not really fair to blame any single generation of parent in the long flow of generations.

Said another way, if you feel you got a self-negative inner voice from your own parents, it is not fair to blame just them, because they got it from their parents too. Your specific strain of self-negative inner voice has traveled a long way to get to you — it has transmuted and come down through countless generations of your family, right alongside your hair color, religious beliefs and language. It’s all one flow.

And as a parent yourself, if you feel that you may doing this to your own children, and yet do not know how to stop it — this also is not your fault — you are simply speaking to them in a version of the same language you learned as a child, from your own parents. It’s all one flow.

How to Fix it

Fortunately, this accidental wounding of one’s children can also be prevented and fixed, using a series of protective measures to protect your child from the emotional pain of this unintentional wound.

Here is the link to the First Protective Measure, which you can use to self-assess and quickly fix this problem for your own child — it is an extremely effective and easy technique, and is explained in a 9-minute audio briefing so you can listen from anywhere.

You will be able do it immediately with your child, even as soon as you finish the briefing.

I guarantee that by the end of this short session, you will have a powerful, yet straightforward technique to protect and immunize your child from this lifelong source of emotional pain and wounding.

Warmly,

Artie

founder, preside meditation

http://presidelife.com/the-first-protective-measure-audio-111/

Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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