The pathogen has three defenses,
Attack with great viciousness
Allies. It is important with this pathogen to identify your allies, and the pathogen’s allies. This is a trauma pathogen of sides.
False allies subvert.
Notice how the Gardnerians responded. They’re arguing to keep you locked to “parental alienation” that continues your abuse by having to prove something in the courts. Why? Do you see? Are they giving your children the DSM-5 diagnosis of Psychological Child Abuse?
Do you see? Now you will learn of allies. Get your PTSD (complex trauma; traumatic grief) properly diagnosed, and I want you to get at least 6 months of treatment with a trauma-informed therapist for your PTSD (complex trauma). Do it.
And then, we are going to enlist the voices of your trauma recovery therapists in support of what I am saying to professional psychology – we have to stop abusing and traumatizing you – you.
None of this is about child custody. You know that, and I know that. That’s a lie. It’s all about abusing and traumatizing you.
So I want you to find your allies. Your choice. They are your allies. I’d recommend someone with trauma-ish knowledge, but whoever you feel comfortable with. Some of you, maybe some of the moms, will find a domestic violence trauma recovery person more suitable. That would be completely understandable.
So don’t be looking for “experts,” start identifying your allies.
I don’t want to wait 10 years to solve this. Today. That sounds about right. Is there any reason you couldn’t start serious loving on your kid today? Didn’t think so, so today.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857