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We are ONLY as valuable as what WE can provide to a Narcissist – and we ALL have an expiration date with them once our usefulness is gone.

From my Book: Greg Zaffuto – Author – From Charm to Harm and Everything Else in Between with a Narcissist

The most important thing we can internalize to move forward is that a Narcissist CANNOT love, they do not KNOW love, do not WANT love, and they do not bond with anyone in any sort of relationship. What they WANT is to control people to fulfill many needs in every area of their life. What they DO is pretend to know love, know emotions, know caring – but that is only the façade they wear to bring their agenda to fruition. If you do NOT supply them with what they WANT – you are considered worthless. They only WANT what they WANT…

There is NOTHING real about them – it is all about the façade they create for us personally to DRAG us into a specific agenda they have in mind for us! Once we understand this we MUST do everything within our power to discard them from our heart and mind to move forward. No/minimal contact to start on your journey. Greg

We ARE strong, we ARE centered, and WE are loving people with empathy that got pulled into the dysfunctional chaos of emotional and psychological abuse from of a Narcissist’s dark world and lack of a REAL identity. Through all of this we lost ourselves. We gave up so much of who we are trying to reconcile things, fix the many wrongs we were blamed for, as well as constantly pacifying the Narcissist. We were smothered by this connection with a Narcissist. Unfortunately, we learned the hard way that his/her needs and demands were unending and none of this was about ANY type of normal love, a normal bond, or any type of a relationship beyond the Narcissist’s needs – and it was destructive to all of us at so many levels. We never had a place in the Narcissist’s world beyond what we could give and what they took from…