Family Scapegoat is usually truth-teller – Sherrie Campbell PhD

Families break up, not because the family is abusive. Families break up because someone in the family speaks up about the abuse. When no one in a family dares to speak up, the abusive patterns that run the family system stay in power. Abuse is the status-quo and everyone must follow along in the program. You are expected to see abuse as normal.

It is only when one brave person decides enough is enough and this person start speaking out against being abused that psychologically abusive families fall apart. For the family to stay together, they must do all they can to destroy the truth-teller.

The truth-teller immediately becomes the scapegoat. Those who are too afraid to leave, even if they claim to love the truth-teller, will turn on the truth-teller so they don’t face the same wrath. The mindset to hold, is the abusive family we had didn’t broke up because we spoke up. It’s better to live life among truth-tellers than to exist in the lowly life of liars.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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