Projection is an unconscious defensive mechanism in which we project our own shadow – our insecurities, flaws, and weaknesses – onto others.
When someone triggers you and you have an intense emotional response, consider why. Perhaps their actions reflect a trauma or shadow aspect of yourself that you haven’t yet integrated.
Author Debbie Ford beautifully describes this concept in her book: “I like to think of it in terms of energy. Imagine having a hundred different electrical outlets on your chest. Each outlet represents a different quality. “The qualities we acknowledge and embrace have cover plates over them. They are safe; no electricity runs through them. But the qualities that are not okay with us, which we have not yet owned, do have a charge. So when others come along who act out one of these qualities they plug right into us.”
Can you recognize your own reflection in what you criticize in another? What aspect of yourself is demanding your attention? Consider this an opportunity for self-discovery.
Ever heard the saying, “When you point a blaming finger at someone, there are three fingers pointing back toward you?” Instead of irritation, explore actionable steps. Is there an action you can take to change the situation? Maybe you need to communicate more directly or establish a boundary.
If changing the situation isn’t possible, the next step is acceptance of the other person and where they are in their journey.
The more aware we are of our reactions and what is behind them, the more we can stay grounded and in control of our response.
Does this resonate with you?
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