Indeed , the targeted parent can have some issues , that need resolution .
My “ addictions” via psychiatry, RX and trauma bond with my abuser , were all in play. My Mom was dying , the whole shit show . I used to try to consider having had support in those times and what a difference it could make.
Psychiatric care destroys relationships , and renders the medicated, often targeted partner vulnerable to the directives, of the “ sane “ one.
I now understand my part , as I mirrored his darkness, and became saturated with it.. god saw I need to be released .. my prayers were not specific enough ..being aware , being represented fairly would have been the right thing , but often is not , in “ family “ court .
The survivor of Child Psychological Abuse speaks
i wanna make a statement for all the alienated children out there, it is so incredibly hard reconnecting, weather it be facing past trauma or just hard feelings or even feeling kind you’re betraying yourself.
personally i felt as if i had betrayed myself. i had to write statements against my own mother and now i’m living with her again. it’s nice and all but i still feel in the back of my mind that i’m betraying myself and the people who put me against her, it took me so long to be okay on my own. everyday i regret the choice of leaving my mom but sometimes i wonder if it’s what we needed to grow as people, for her sobriety and my maturity.
everyday i think about how i affected her, her reputation, her mental heath and we’ve discussed how she never blamed me, how she knew it wasn’t entirely me and that people weren’t giving me the resources i was entitled to. everyday my mom reminds me she loves me and every time it reminds me how much i hurt her.
it’s so hard facing all these emotions and as an 18 year old i bet it’s even harder for this younger than me or more heavily influenced.
the best thing my mom has done though is remind me that people should have handled my situation differently, that it’s not my fault. that i wasn’t properly informed.
i wish you all the best of luck, let me know if anyone has anything i can help with!!
