Toxic Families

Sherri Campbell PhD

The main goal of a toxic family is to break your spirit. It’s not enough to break your heart, they want to break your spirit. They want to rob you of your resilience and the tenacity to stand up for yourself. They accomplish this by telling you the lie that you are the wrong, bad, and despicable person in the dynamic.

Over time many of you come to believe this lie, rather than understanding that your family members aren’t capable of love. What other choice did you have when you had no other refuting evidence? You believe what you learn in the environment you are in.

The mindset to hold, at the beginning of your healing, is to stop repeating the lie to yourself that you are not lovable, that you are bad and carrying this abusive cycle on towards yourself within yourself.

Self abuse is still abuse.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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