From an alienated grandparent ; yes it’s that easy for a toxic, unhealed , child to do great harm

Dear Toxic Adult Children….
I keep reading where we as Grandparents, are toxic and feel “entitled” posted on fb but we are toxic and do not DESERVE to see our Grandchildren posted on fb. It seen so to be the new thing now. Here is how I feel.
Dear Child of my grandchildren. I went from the bestest grandparent to nothing in a Month after twelve years. Now I am toxic and as you told me, feel entitled. You told me that I am Too attached. I love them too much.
Well. Hmmmm. That never bothered you when you paid for nothing and we bought their clothes, diapers, food and swings. When we took care of them so you could do you. When we provided for everything and had her almost constantly while you both lived with us for three years.
I became “Feeling entitled of a right I do not have” when we asked if she could maybe spend the night with us once or twice during the Summer. I guess you forgot I kept her every Summer for 9 years while you worked. Or that I picked her up every day after school and kept her until you got off work to help you out.
I became “toxic” when you got mad because I did not agree to not mention to her that you both lived with us for three years so she would think her step dad helped you raise her.
Finally, I “love her in an unhealthy way because we asked to take her to go eat and that wanting to spend time with her was “weird” unless it is at your home. That I am “too attached” to my grandchildren and that is not healthy although your daddy can get her whenever he wants, no questions asked, including flying her to the state where he lives.
Well my sweet child, I thought that was what normal grandparents did. I am NOT sorry for loving my grandchildren. I am NOT sorry that we have been so involved in their lives. I will NOT apologize for not caving to your many demands and I won’t walk on eggshells without breaking them anymore because you took them from us anyway. All because I stopped letting you control me and I started standing up for myself after years of you acting like I never did anything for you. YOU are the TOXIC ones for denying them the love that one has had for 12 years and the other two years since she was born.

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Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

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