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Freedom, Morality & Natural Law

Freedom, Morality and Natural Law

I AMOCT 25, 2018,
True liberty is an essential property of objective truth and morality. Therefore there can be no true liberty in a civilization that enshrines moral relativity.”

Morality is very simple. You can feel it. Your body chemically guides you to know in your bones what is right and what is wrong. The Wrongs have been said many ways:

Do no harm.

Don’t steal another’s property or injure another’s body.

Don’t initiate force or coerce with threat another against their will.

And the Rights as well:

Love one another.

Do unto others what you would have done unto you.

And so on… We know what this stuff is.

Nobody can bestow liberty on you. It is a state of being that comes from understanding and acting without contradiction with that which the creative universe intends. When humans feel, think and act consistently within this natural law, the result will be liberty. Until then, we are simply handed priviledges diguised as freedoms by our masters.

If we looked very closely at the idea of liberty, we would discover that there is a radical distinction between true human liberty and liberty falsely so-called. Indeed, liberty falsely socalled is that same liberty which the New World Order qualifies as the “bait of an idea to attract the masses of the people to one’s party for the purpose of crushing another who is in authority,” and as an idea of freedom which is really an “infection,” and as a “slackening of the reins of government.”

False liberty (as opposed to true liberty) refers to merely an idea of liberty that sets one group against another, as in the two-party political system, or even in a manipulated revolution. There may be an appearance of more freedom, but ultimately the reins (or reigns) remain. This is not a state of true liberty. It still restricts free action. Where does the false idea of liberty come from? What is false liberty? What is true liberty? Knowledge of the correct answers to these questions is still lacking in the bulk of the patriot movement; and to the degree that it is lacking, so is integral unity and true power to overcome the menace. Until the patriot movement unifies itself under true philosophical principles, it will win only apparent victories, while the satanic New World Order continues its long march to total global domination.

Most of the freedom movements (patriot, tea party, etc.) are ignorant of what comprises true liberty. The fight for liberty must be based on philosophical underpinnings of universal principals of nature or the fight will fail. And as the fight fails, so it leaves the path open to tyranny and global governance. Examples of incomplete or false ideas of liberty include those in the sovereign movement who traverse complicated legal machinations, filing paperwork in order to classified as a different class of person by the state; or tea baggers who rail against certain segments of the population. True liberty is the highest of natural endowments. It is the portion only of intellectual or rational natures; and it confers on man this dignity – that he is in the hand of his counsel and has power over his actions. But the manner in which such dignity is exercised is of the greatest moment, inasmuch as on the use that is made of liberty the highest good and the greatest evil alike depend. Man, indeed, is free to obey his reason, to seek moral good, and to strive unswervingly after his last end. Yet he is free also to turn aside to all other things; and, in pursuing the empty semblance of good, to disturb rightful order and to fall headlong into the destruction which he has voluntarily chosen. Worse still are those who promote a false and absurd notion of liberty, by perverting the idea of freedom, or extending it to things in respect of which man cannot rightly be regarded as free.

 The Creator has given humans the ability to reason and choose. Reason aligned with truth will lead inevitably to liberty. But humans can also choose to ignore reason and choose less wisely, which will inevitably lead to confusion and chaos. The Declaration of Independence states as follows: We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.

Sad to say, this is a very ambiguous, and therefore dangerous, proposition, as it is subject to any number of conflicting interpretations. Indeed, the proof of its weakness is the young age of the total collapse of the American Republic. Obviously, that clause has not been interpreted properly. If it had been, we would not have devolved into barbarity in less than two hundred fifty years. It can be argued that the American Republic was built on Freemasonic sand; and thus if we are going to rebuild it, we might want to re-codify our foundational principles. In order for America to throw of its internationalist oppressors, a proper understanding of natural human liberty, in the minds and hearts of the American people, is indispensably necessary. For we the people have been brought low, and have been rendered soft and vulnerable as the direct result of having imbibed and believed a false notion of liberty and the pursuit of happiness.

As a natural endowment given to human nature by God, the omnipotent Creator of the universe, liberty must exist for an end or ultimate purpose. And this end must be identical to the essential determination and composition of human nature, which is rational, i.e., intellectual and volitional. The end, or object, both of the rational will and of its liberty is that good only which is in conformity with reason.

Liberty belongs only to those who have the gift of reason or intelligence. Animals do not possess liberty. Considered as to its nature, it is the faculty of choosing means fitted for the end proposed, for he is master of his actions who can choose one thing out of many. Freedom of choice is, therefore, the essential property of the human will. But the will cannot proceed to act until it is enlightened by intellectual knowledge. For the proper object of the will is the good. The will cannot proceed to act until it is enlightened by the intellect. Nothing can be desired by the will unless it is judged by the intellect to be a good. Thus in all voluntary acts, choice is subsequent to an intellectual judgment that something is good or desirable.

Our gift of reason is a means to a specific end. If we use our intellect in harmony with natural law—that is, free of contradiction from truth—we become more free and progress toward our ultimate end. I don’t pretend to know what that end is, but our nature rewards acting out of love, and moves us closer to unity.

Our gift of will is tied to rational thought. We use reason to judge the options before us and then we choose, resulting in action. Every voluntary act is an expression of our ability to choose rightly. But we always choose based on our evaluation of what will result in the most good.

Our thought processes can fail to deliver the Good. We may believe instead of reason, holding close those institutions of security that contradict fundamental moral truths. Or we might think we know based on false information. We’re not perfect, but striving to discover and understand that which is true will always keep us pointed in the right direction.

The will is referred to as the appetitive power of the soul or the rational appetite. Like the intellect, the will is a spiritual faculty. It is that power through which an individual seeks to execute an act or attain to an object proposed to it by the intellect. The object of the will is always the good, and even in the election of evil, it must be proposed to the will under the appearance of good. Anything chosen as a means is therefore viewed under some aspect of goodness.

Therefore because in all voluntary acts choice is subsequent to a judgment upon the truth of the good presented, declaring to which good preference should be given, it is an immutably true principle that human liberty depends entirely on intellectual judgments that conform to reason and the natural law. If a judgment which does not conform to the natural law or to reason, and which is, therefore, objectively false and immoral, is acted upon by the will, then it is a source of grave disorder in society. Exponentially multiply the number of individual immoral acts, and you have a Republic that collapses from moral decay in a short period of time.

Humans base all choices of action on intellectual evaluation, and those choices are based on what we judge is “best” for us at given moments. If a choice is based on fallacious reasoning instead of truth and logic, we are in contradiction with nature, and the result “grave disorder”. It is the exponential accumulation of all the false choices leading to immoral actions that have lead to the state of confusion and increasing lack of liberty we find ourselves in. Hedonism, i.e., the tyranny of the passions, has no place in the well ordered man or in the well ordered civilization. Unfortunately our elitist overlords have long been at dumbing us down to the level of beasts that cannot employ their natural rational endowments, but only their carnal lusts. We allowed this to happen to us because we mistakenly believed that the lie they told us, namely that true liberty is the “right” to do whatever we want, whenever we want, as long as it is not illegal or discoverable. True liberty is an essential property of objective truth and morality. Therefore there can be no true liberty in a civilization that enshrines moral relativity.

What is moral is what is true. Truth is truth. It is what has happened. There can be no shadings of truth, no relative orderings of less or more truth. It simply is. To the degree that truth can be known, knowing what is moral action becomes completely unambiguous.

We have been educated to believe in a lie that morality can be determined and handed down in laws of man. This has led to an idea that what is good is simply what feels good. That is hedonism. This way of thinking excludes reason, and therefore prevents us from connecting with what is true. This is an artifact of the domination culture, and the extent of our acceptance of that is the extent that we subjugate ourselves and move further away from liberty and closer to slavery.


Our Will Stands , Wise Owls 🤓

Oracle Report by Laura Walker
Tuesday, October 30, 2018
Since the New Moon in Libra on October 8, we have been under the theme of “after a storm, a boat landing stands in need of reconstruction.”
It seems to me, this time around, the keyword of this symbol is stands.
The structural integrity of everything has been tested to extremes.
The foundations of the truth movement and free speech have been attacked on many levels.
Even though tremendous effort to de-stabilize us emotionally, mentally, and physically has been undertaken by falling archontic forces, we remain rooted in our loyalty to truth and wisdom.
Our Will stands.
At the same time this month, we are changing the way we have constructed or built things.  We are changing the shape of our lives.
We are adapting to changing conditions.
That means evolution.
As we have been changing the structure and shape of things, right alongside has been the whisper of Spirit leading, guiding, and directing us.  When we clearly see that we are not in 100% control of things, we drop a wall of our defenses and listen.
Listening to and watching Spirit in action are the same thing.
I emphasize this today because today is, in many ways, one of the last days to fully work with the energy of Jupiter in Scorpio that began last October.  Mercury will leave Scorpio later tonight, ending the massive stream of information on what needs to go — what needs to be purged from our lives and what needs to be purged from the underworld of archontic humans.
Applied to our personal lives, specific beliefs, habits, coping skills, reactions, mindsets, and conditions that do not serve us have made themselves visible over the last year.
Today’s energies offer us one big chance to see one bigger picture.
It is not the “peppiest” of days, as the Sun is discharging “the Moon shining across a lake,” and the Earth is discharging “a sleigh without snow.”  Mars continues to discharge “a woman, disappointed and disillusioned, courageously facing a seemingly empty life.”
Under these energetics, it can be harder to muster the resources needed to get things done.  This is because the nature of the day’s energy is: reflection on the current status of things, analyzing where too much energy is being spent compared to the “return,” revising what needs revision, and recognizing limitations or who/what is limiting.
All of this in the middle of a Venus retrograde, when our values and value systems are realigned.
Patience is recommended.
And if the tricks of the season, which accompany the last degree of Scorpio (where Mercury is today), “children in Halloween costumes indulging in various pranks,” take hold, we ride it out.  The temper tantrums of “children” are best left ignored.  We see through the pranks.  We know the tricksters time is ending.  It’s happening now.
Our focus is on the rebuild — our way.

Delusions , Lies , Inherit in Narcissistic Personality Disorder .

The following post by Craig Childress Psy.D.,, speaks to a pathology

ignored as Domestic Abuse /Child Abuse erases family’s by targeting

1 parent in all manner of lies ..often the child , adult is perceived

as NPD , when it’s long held trauma , unnoticed , unhealed , grieving

each day, triggered …as we witness the Domestic Abuse and erasure of

Immigrant families , disappearance of children, failure to be able

to reconnect ..We many targeted parents live with the same dynamics

and the same failures within systems that are supposed to know better.

Childress has it down, as to why this has been allowed through social

norms that have no normalcy , but are very lucrative and powerful

from the top down.. adapting to DSM conjecture of the human beings

mental state …ignoring facts as in my case …upheld as an authority

that has no failings , nor responsibility .,

Gig is up ; it has been along time coming .. Gladly laying this burden

down ..💯🙏🏼✌🏼❤️

Narcissistic psychopathology lies. It lies a lot. It lies all the time. For the narcissistic personality, “Truth and reality are what I assert them to be.”

Mental health professionals who work with narcissistic personality pathology – which includes all mental health professionals working with high-conflict families – should recognize that the narcissistic personality lies. They lie a lot. They lie all the time.

In the world of normal, there is an agreed upon truth and reality. But this is not true when we enter the world of narcissistic psychopathology. The world of the narcissist is a world of their own construction.

In the world of normal, there can be multiple perceptions about events that we can bring together into an agreed upon narrative for what truth and reality are. Not so, when we enter the world of narcissistic psychopathology. The narcissistic pathology has no grounding in actual truth or realty.

Narcissistic psychopathology creates its own alternate universe of truth and reality that bears little resemblance to actual truth and reality. There is not a compromise between different views, because one view is delusional.

And there is no point in arguing with a delusion, or presenting rational facts, truth, and reality to the delusional belief. A delusion – by definition – is a fixed and false belief that is impervious to change based on facts, truth, and reality. If we could change a delusion by presenting it with truth and reality, it wouldn’t be delusional.

There is no point arguing with a delusion. Narcissistic pathology enters the world of delusional.

Theodore Millon is one of the grand kahunas of personalities disorders. He is the author of the gold standard of personality disorder assessment – the MCMI. Here is what Millon says about the narcissistic personality’s hold on reality:

From Millon: “Under conditions of unrelieved adversity and failure, narcissists may decompensate into paranoid disorders. Owing to their excessive use of fantasy mechanisms, they are disposed to misinterpret events and to construct delusional beliefs.”

The narcissistic personality does not always live in the same world of shared truth and reality as the rest of us non-pathology people do. They live in enough of our shared reality so as not to be obviously pathological, but they are pathological.

Aaron Beck is the grand high kahuna of professional psychology. Beck is almost single-handedly responsible for developing an entire scientifically grounded school of psychotherapy, Cognitive-Behavior Therapy. He is also an expert in personality disorder pathology. Here is what Aaron Beck says about the belief systems of the narcissistic personality:

From Beck: “Another conditional assumption of power is the belief of exemption from normal rules and laws, even the laws of science and nature.” (Beck et al., 2004, p. 251-252)

“…even the laws of science and nature.” Yep. For the narcissistic personality, “Truth and reality are whatever I assert them to be.”

All mental health professionals working with attachment-related family pathology surrounding divorce must have a professional level of knowledge regarding narcissistic and borderline personality pathology. This is not optional knowledge. It is knowledge required for professional competence in assessment, diagnosis, and treatment of pathology.

The narcissistic personality lies. It lies a lot. It lies all the time. And it’s delusional.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857

Thy Will being done A message of great import :A love letter of Liberation in daze that try our souls…bags packed

In words , so beautifully articulated a love letter arrived and I must share.

Everything will be alright , if this I am sure . I am currently experiencing a tempered transformation, thankfully , for I have maintained, even in the worst of times , I have erred , I have moved forward , with tools provided by loving hands , gently voices, tuff live and fear based examples from with in and without. A recent living waking dream , albeit with a short shelf life …taught me well.

A cycle has indeed ended for all of us…Constriction, of your truth leads to much harm … I was abled to transform a very heavy negative , with accumulated experiences , folks who are generous in their smiles, eye contact , hugs , a knowing of trials of life , in a circle …never unbroken .

My heart is beyond joy, as a Dream Weaver , to several beloveds , current and past and several blood relatives who have space , and are ready as am I…Shift .

I am where I want to be. I am becoming the person I can live with in harmony , born of much loss…as knowledge gifted , and earned articulated , my credo more than resurrected and refined , I can more accurately be who I am.. be more centered , listen more , as I read this the 1st time I read the post , I was listening to Joni Mitchell sing Clouds .

Earlier tonight I posted on FB , pictures of my afternoon experience

Watching clouds , taking pictures , just being in my loneness, but not lonely .

To me this is LIBERATION , a more inclusive FREEDOM.

I had a long conversation and an email in the last 24 hours that allowed me to acknowledge weak spots , and dealing with em with highest of intents .

Hope Does Indeed Float !

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July 2018 Energies ~ Sculpting The New You ~ July 3, 2018

by cindyloucbp

By Brenda Hoffman

Dear Ones,

You are busily adjusting to new emotions, physical shifts, and intellectual AHAs. Throughout this phase, you will likely feel like an emotional yo-yo.

Even though you are physically, emotionally, and intellectually quite able to integrate these pieces into a new whole, at times, you will feel as if you are on extreme overload. For not only are you shifting throughout your being, so are those of 3D, creating chaos that may seem overwhelming.

Our past messages indicated that those wishing to remain of 3D would be even more adamant about displaying 3D emotions and actions – while those beginning to shift and those of you at the forefront would slip from 3D control.

It is a time of 3D destruction. The phase that follows, which begins after the July 2018 eclipses, is that of the 5D rebuild.

As that rebuild begins, you will often feel as if it is hopeless, as if those with 5D or beyond intentions will never be stronger than those solidly enmeshed in 3D. But day by day you will begin to see progress occurring within hours instead of years or decades. For large groups and communities will turn their backs, so to speak, on 3D control. Forcing those of 3D control to fight back dramatically until their fight seems to be a parody or comedy of life as the world moves into love and joy.

Even though such does not seem possible today, it will happen.

So let us turn to your shifts of the next few days. Your emotions, even your physicality will experience wide swings. Not to punish you but instead created by you to determine who you are.

As has always been true of earth beings – even though you are evolving, you continue to be an earth being – you find it difficult to select something without experiencing it to some degree. So your emotional, intellectual, and physical swings the next few days are helping you choose you.

You will find yourself knowing that you like that, but not this. So it is you are rebuilding you.

Imagine the next few days as the difference between building a crude mud hut, as was true in your 3D world, or creating a home of extreme personal beauty and pleasure. For the hut protected you from the elements but did not satisfy your inner need for beauty and self-care.

You are creating yourself anew and are doing so not out of fear as you have for eons, but of joy and fun – your new creation components.

Your question the next few days is “Who am I?” Once you determine that, you will expand your energy to help those reconfiguring structures.

As has always been true, you are the key component to creating something perfect for you. Then and only then, you will expand those energies to create for the masses – either physically or through energy sharing.

Before this transition, the masses were more important than the individual. Masses controlled in fear by a few.

New Earth and new you are exactly opposite for if you allow or encourage others to control you, you are merely exchanging one 3D world for another; allowing someone to determine what is good for you based on what is most rewarding for them.

In 3D, the question of who you are was voiced but never acted upon for those in control could not have you declaring complete freedom. So you continued lifetime after lifetime changing the rules here and there but always under the control of someone’s dictates.

For the first time on earth, you are claiming your self-contained being and doing so by adding segments of your past, present, and future beings. The next few days are merely you creating a new whole from the segments or colors you now have available.

Thinking in terms of each segment having unique skills and therefore colors, you are creating a new you painting of great pleasure. Some of you will discover that you prefer watercolors to oil paints and others different mediums but all creating images easily changeable until you create the perfect image, blending colors, or discarding this and that much as someone creating a sculpture would.

Exploring those new skills will be your chaos of the next few days. Putting a bit here, painting or cutting over it, selecting another color, emotion, entity, or segment until it is just right.

So it is the next few days, you will be revamping all your personal bits and pieces into the complete being required for your new you role of joy. Do not be frightened anymore than is true for an actor testing how to best present his or her lines, a sculptor cutting away the stone, or a painter testing images and colors.

You are creating you in every joyful way possible. Even though doing so may seem a bit frightening for it is a change without an earth precedent. Allow it to be without fear. So be it. Amen.

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Childress -Going to DC

The Petition to the APA asserts the right of targeted parents for professional competence in the assessment, diagnosis, and treatment of their children and families. Article 3 of the Petition to the APA describes four domains of great concern regarding potential violations of the APA ethics code: Standard 2.01 Boundaries of Competence Standard 9.01 Bases […]

via Going to DC — Dr. Craig Childress: Attachment Based “Parental Alienation” (AB-PA)

Why I stayed-My Plan App

When many people hear that someone is in an unhealthy or abusive relationship, their first question is, “Why don’t they leave?” If you’ve never been through an abusive relationship, this sort of response might seem logical. Just throw the deuces up and move on with your life – right? But here’s the thing – when it comes to relationship abuse, it’s never as easy as “just leaving.” We’re here to tell you why.

Leaving an abusive relationship is hard for many reasons. Here are 11 of the many reasons that someone in an unhealthy or toxic situation might stay with their partner.

1. Society normalizes unhealthy behavior so people may not understand that their relationship is abusive.
When you think that unhealthy or abusive behaviors are normal, it’s hard to identify your relationship as abusive and therefore there’s no reason to seek help.

2. Emotional abuse destroys your self-esteem, making it feel impossible to start fresh.
Oftentimes, people in emotionally abusive relationships may not understand that they are being abused because there’s no violence involved. Also, many will dismiss or downplay emotional abuse because they don’t think it’s as bad as physical abuse. It’s hard for those in abusive relationships to leave their partners after they’ve continuously been made to feel worthless and like there’s no better option for themselves.

3. The Cycle of Abuse: after every abusive incident comes a make-up honeymoon phase.
Often when an abusive situation happens, it is followed by the abuser doing something nice or apologizing and promising that they will never do it again. This makes their partner minimize the original abusive behavior.

4. It’s dangerous to leave. Like, VERY dangerous.
Many times, leaving an abusive relationship is not only emotionally difficult, but can also be life-threatening. In fact, the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is post break-up. Women are 70 times more likely to be killed in the weeks after leaving their abusive partner than at any other time during the relationship.1

The best way to protect yourself if you are in an abusive relationship is to create a safety plan. For help creating one, check out our My Plan App.

5. It’s not just hard to breakup safely, it’s also hard to escape the cycle of control.
People in abusive relationships often attempt to break up with their partner several times before the break up sticks. On average, a person in an abusive relationship will attempt to leave 7 times before finally leaving for good. People in abusive relationships often attempt to break up with their partner several times before the break up sticks. On average, a person in an abusive relationship will attempt to leave 7 times before finally leaving for good.2

6. Society perpetuates a ride-or-die mindset.
Those in unhealthy or abusive relationships might stay with their partner or get back together after a break up because they feel pressure to not give up, forgive and forget or “ride it out.” Pop culture glamorizes being a “ride-or-die” for your friends and partner, making people out to be in the wrong for leaving their partner. And while being loyal is a great thing, a good friend or partner would never endanger or hurt you.

7. They feel personally responsible for their partner or their behavior.
After a conflict, an abuser will turn the situation around and make their partner feel guilty or as though they are somehow at fault. This type of behavior is known as gaslighting.

8. They believe that if they stick it out, things might change.
A lot of people in abusive relationships stay in them because they love their partner and think that things will change. They might also believe their partner’s behavior is due to tough times or feel as though they can change their partner if they are a better partner themselves. Never stay in a relationship in which you count on someone to change their behavior for the better.

9. There is social pressure to be in a perfect relationship.
There is incredible pressure to be in a perfect relationship, and some cultures and social media only accentuate this pressure.

10. Fear of how others will react.
People in abusive relationships often feel embarrassed to admit that their partner is abusive for fear of being judged, blamed, marginalized, pitied or looked down on. For example, in some LGBTQIA* relationships, someone may stay with their partner for fear of being outed.

11. They share a life together.
Marriage, children, and shared finances are often huge reasons that people in abusive relationships stay in them. This dependency is heightened in relationships where one partner is differently abled. But there are also similar factors that affect young people’s decisions to stay in relationships, including shared friend groups and living situations.

There are lots of elements that influence a person’s decision to stay in an abusive relationship. And while seeking help to get out of these relationships is the most important thing, blaming someone in an abusive relationship is never okay. There is a big difference between judgment and responsibility. While someone might have used bad judgment by staying in an unhealthy or dangerous situation, it does not mean that they are responsible, or asking, for the abuse perpetrated against them.

Protection from Sexual Assault 

“I draw a line down the middle of a chalkboard, sketching a male symbol on one side and a female symbol on the other. Then I ask just the men: What steps do you guys take, on a daily basis, to prevent yourselves from being sexually assaulted? At first there is a kind of awkward silence as the men try to figure out if they’ve been asked a trick question. The silence gives way to a smattering of nervous laughter. Occasionally, a young a guy will raise his hand and say, ‘I stay out of prison.’ This is typically followed by another moment of laughter, before someone finally raises his hand and soberly states, ‘Nothing. I don’t think about it.’ Then I ask women the same question. What steps do you take on a daily basis to prevent yourselves from being sexually assaulted? Women throughout the audience immediately start raising their hands. As the men sit in stunned silence, the women recount safety precautions they take as part of their daily routine. Here are some of their answers: Hold my keys as a potential weapon. Look in the back seat of the car before getting in. Carry a cell phone. Don’t go jogging at night. Lock all the windows when I sleep, even on hot summer nights. Be careful not to drink too much. Don’t put my drink down and come back to it; make sure I see it being poured. Own a big dog. Carry Mace or pepper spray. Have an unlisted phone number. Have a man’s voice on my answering machine. Park in well-lit areas. Don’t use parking garages. Don’t get on elevators with only one man, or with a group of men. Vary my route home from work. Watch what I wear. Don’t use highway rest areas. Use a home alarm system. Don’t wear headphones when jogging. Avoid forests or wooded areas, even in the daytime. Don’t take a first-floor apartment. Go out in groups. Own a firearm. Meet men on first dates in public places. Make sure to have a car or cab fare. Don’t make eye contact with men on the street. Make assertive eye contact with men on the street.”
― Jackson Katz, The Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and How All Men Can Help