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I’ve done something important over the past couple of weeks. I’ve opened two very important lines of argument… in fact, the most important lines of argument.
This is a trauma pathology.
The purpose is to abuse and traumatize you.
They told you, “This is not about you, it’s about the child.”
They lied to you. They lied to you so they could abuse and traumatize you. I’m so sorry they did that to you. They never should have done that to you.
You did nothing wrong. It was not your fault, bad people did bad things to you. You did nothing wrong. You are a good person, and a good parent.
I’m going to be telling them, “You’re abusing these parents with a sadness so deep, and for so long, that it is traumatic. You are creating traumatic levels of grief in these parents. Stop it now.”
And they will tell me, “It’s not about the parent, it’s about the child.”
“You’re a liar,” I’ll say. I’ll tell them that – and I promise I’ll use that word, “You’re a liar,” I’ll say, “You’re just saying that so you can continue your cruel and emotionally violent abuse of these parents? Stop it. Stop it now,” I’ll say.
I don’t think they’ll like when I call them “a liar.” Things might get a little… intense… at that point. I don’t care. They need to stop abusing you, and they need to return your children to you right away.
I don’t want any of you to follow me on that argument line… about your abuse. That’s an argument that someone has to make on your behalf. I’ll do that. I’m a clinical psychologist… I can handle their nonsense.
I’m going to appeal to empathy, human compassion, morality, and normal human decency.
We should not take anyone’s children away from them… ever. That’s a very cruel thing to do. Very cruel. Almost the most cruel thing I can imagine, to take someone’s children away.
They’re going to tell me that you’re a “bad person” who “deserves to suffer.” That’s not true. That’s the lie. I’m going to expose their lies… and that’s the biggest lie of all, that “It’s not about you, it’s about the child.”
That’s one of the lines of argument that becomes available when we open the trauma line – the fourth line. They are traumatizing you. Traumatic grief. That is the whole point of the entire “child custody” charade… to abuse you… you make you suffer.
This isn’t about child custody. It isn’t even about the child. It’s about you. It’s all about you. It is about abusing you, it’s about making you suffer.
I’m going to tell them that. I’m going to tell them that very sternly, and I’m going to deal with their lies. I’m going to make them stop abusing you.
So that’s one line I just opened. Don’t follow me on that one, let me do the talking, you stay focused on the task at hand, getting your kids back. Dorcy is going to anchor that.
I’m going to have some… different discussions… with my professional colleagues – about right and wrong. About morality and abuse. About empathy.
The other thing that happened, is that the trauma line of argument is the main line for this pathology. It’s a trauma pathology. The other three, attachment, personality disorder, and family systems… they’re the “more”… they’re not the “core.” Trauma is the core.
Trauma is the strongest line. I’m like that sword fighter who’s been beating the adversary with his left hand… but I’m not left handed… With trauma, I just switched to my right hand.
There are four domains of knowledge needed to properly assess, diagnose, and treat your families; attachment, personality disorder, family systems therapy… and complex trauma.
And trauma is the most powerful one of all. Up til now… I’ve been playing… well, not exactly playing… but I’ve been doing this with one very important… one key and central… hand tied behind my back.
Not anymore. Were opening the fourth line now. Trauma.
AB-PA isn’t a “new theory.” It’s trauma-informed practice.
Surprise pathogen. I’ll bet you didn’t know that did you, stupid pathogen? That AB-PA represents trauma-informed assessment… and trauma informed diagnosis… and trauma-informed treatment… you didn’t know that, did you pathogen?
I know. Because you’re a trauma pathogen… and you can’t see yourself… that’s the Escher paradox I’ve constructed for you – Diagnostic Indicator 3. What happens when we ask a trauma pathogen to identify itself?… Diagnostic Indicator 3: the trauma symptom – the core.
Dorcy’s work too, that represents trauma-informed practice as well. In fact, it’s some of the best trauma-recovery work I’ve ever seen. She’s not using psychology-based knowledge, but it’s solid professional trauma work, and an impressive accomplishment.
I told Dorcy she could refer to the Custody Resolution Method as a trauma-informed analysis of the family data, and that she could refer to Higher Purpose Parenting as trauma-informed parenting skills training. I told her she could start using those terms for her programs based on my authority – I am authorizing her to use those terms for her work.
I also told Dorcy that she could begin referring to the High Road workshop as a trauma-informed intervention workshop for the recovery of children’s authenticity and healthy attachment bonding to parents. I am authorizing her to use that term, trauma-informed, for the High Road workshop.
Trauma is my field. Attachment too, and family systems therapy… and others… but trauma… that’s my expertise. Dorcy’s work is some of the most sophisticated trauma recovery work I’ve seen. It is most definitely trauma-informed practice.
So I told Dorcy she could start using those terms for her work, based on my authority in trauma.
You can too, when you ask for an assessment of your family… you can ask for a “trauma-informed” assessment – that would be an assessment for the three Diagnostic Indicators of AB-PA.
AB-PA represents trauma-informed assessment, diagnosis, and treatment, of pathology. So if you say “trauma-informed” assessment… that’s AB-PA… trauma-informed practice.
Your allies in psychology… they were not giving you very much good stuff to fight with.
The Gardnerians and forensic psychology were giving you the weakest possible thing-something to fight with, that’s not even a recognized pathology in mental health… “parental alienation.”
They did that to abuse you. To make it as hard as possible for you to fight for your kids. You don’t need to prove “parental alienation” in court. Who told you that you had to do that?… that’s a lie.
You just need to get a proper DSM-5 diagnosis. When you get a trauma-informed diagnosis for your family, the DSM-5 diagnosis is V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse. Confirmed.
This is not about child custody… this is about child protection.
They were hiding that from you. They’re not diagnosing your children, are they?… and when you ask them to diagnose your child and family, what do they tell you? – “I don’t diagnose”… they’ll tell you – “I don’t like to pathologize people,” they’ll tell you
…because they’re abusing you.
Don’t you feel abused and traumatized? That’s because you are. It’s called “traumatic grief.” It is a grief and pain so deep, for so long, that it is traumatic. You know, that feeling you have… that. Traumatic grief.
They shouldn’t be doing that to you… no way. The worst thing, is that they tell you they’re not abusing you and traumatizing you. They have no empathy.
That’s the most disturbing symptom in all of this. It was the first symptom I recognized in the first two minutes of my very first session with one of your kids, and it is the core thematic issue running throughout the pathology… the absence of empathy.
Did you know abuse is caused by the absence of empathy, and that the absence of empathy is abuse.
The absence of empathy is never-ever a symptom we want to see. It’s associated with the capacity for human cruelty.
Major Winters. That’s what can happen… without empathy.
That’s what happens when we shut down our compassion, when we turn off our empathy, when we make other people “suffer” because they “deserve” to suffer, because they are “bad.”
Like what we’re doing to you. How you are being made to “suffer” because you “deserve” to suffer because you are “bad.” Like that. The absence of empathy leads to unimaginable cruelty.
It’s not true that you’re a “bad person,” is it? You’re just ordinary people, shopkeepers, musicians, you’re not criminals… just ordinary people. You know that.
But they don’t listen, do they. They say you’re “bad” and that you “deserve” to suffer – and then they take your children away from you so you’ll suffer.
That’s a bad thing they’re doing… making you suffer like that – a pain so deep, a grief so large and for so long… that it’s traumatic. They shouldn’t do that to you.
That’s the trauma dream that has captured them…their trauma dream. They are not living in reality anymore… you’re not a bad parent… they’re a bad person who is abusing you… you’re not an “abusive” parent… it’s them… they’re the people being abusive – of you – their victim… who they blame for your own victimization by them.
When you tell them of your suffering, they tell you they’re not being abusive in taking your children away… because you “deserve” it… because you’re a “bad person.”
It’s called projection. It’s very common for people who are trapped in the trauma dream… the trauma can’t see itself… so it projects itself into the world… it sees itself… in you.
It’s not your shame, it’s their’s, you’re not being abusive, it’s them. You see that. I do too. Because we’re not in the trauma dream of abuse and victimization… but they are.
They are bad people doing very cruel things to you… and justifying it… because they think you “deserve to suffer”… because you are a “bad person.”
So I’ve just opened the fourth line – trauma – the most important one of all.
They are abusing and traumatizing you. That must stop.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857
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The following post by Craig Childress Psy.D.,, speaks to a pathology
ignored as Domestic Abuse /Child Abuse erases family’s by targeting
1 parent in all manner of lies ..often the child , adult is perceived
as NPD , when it’s long held trauma , unnoticed , unhealed , grieving
each day, triggered …as we witness the Domestic Abuse and erasure of
Immigrant families , disappearance of children, failure to be able
to reconnect ..We many targeted parents live with the same dynamics
and the same failures within systems that are supposed to know better.
Childress has it down, as to why this has been allowed through social
norms that have no normalcy , but are very lucrative and powerful
from the top down.. adapting to DSM conjecture of the human beings
mental state …ignoring facts as in my case …upheld as an authority
that has no failings , nor responsibility .,
Gig is up ; it has been along time coming .. Gladly laying this burden
Narcissistic psychopathology lies. It lies a lot. It lies all the time. For the narcissistic personality, “Truth and reality are what I assert them to be.”
Mental health professionals who work with narcissistic personality pathology – which includes all mental health professionals working with high-conflict families – should recognize that the narcissistic personality lies. They lie a lot. They lie all the time.
In the world of normal, there is an agreed upon truth and reality. But this is not true when we enter the world of narcissistic psychopathology. The world of the narcissist is a world of their own construction.
In the world of normal, there can be multiple perceptions about events that we can bring together into an agreed upon narrative for what truth and reality are. Not so, when we enter the world of narcissistic psychopathology. The narcissistic pathology has no grounding in actual truth or realty.
Narcissistic psychopathology creates its own alternate universe of truth and reality that bears little resemblance to actual truth and reality. There is not a compromise between different views, because one view is delusional.
And there is no point in arguing with a delusion, or presenting rational facts, truth, and reality to the delusional belief. A delusion – by definition – is a fixed and false belief that is impervious to change based on facts, truth, and reality. If we could change a delusion by presenting it with truth and reality, it wouldn’t be delusional.
There is no point arguing with a delusion. Narcissistic pathology enters the world of delusional.
Theodore Millon is one of the grand kahunas of personalities disorders. He is the author of the gold standard of personality disorder assessment – the MCMI. Here is what Millon says about the narcissistic personality’s hold on reality:
From Millon: “Under conditions of unrelieved adversity and failure, narcissists may decompensate into paranoid disorders. Owing to their excessive use of fantasy mechanisms, they are disposed to misinterpret events and to construct delusional beliefs.”
The narcissistic personality does not always live in the same world of shared truth and reality as the rest of us non-pathology people do. They live in enough of our shared reality so as not to be obviously pathological, but they are pathological.
Aaron Beck is the grand high kahuna of professional psychology. Beck is almost single-handedly responsible for developing an entire scientifically grounded school of psychotherapy, Cognitive-Behavior Therapy. He is also an expert in personality disorder pathology. Here is what Aaron Beck says about the belief systems of the narcissistic personality:
From Beck: “Another conditional assumption of power is the belief of exemption from normal rules and laws, even the laws of science and nature.” (Beck et al., 2004, p. 251-252)
“…even the laws of science and nature.” Yep. For the narcissistic personality, “Truth and reality are whatever I assert them to be.”
All mental health professionals working with attachment-related family pathology surrounding divorce must have a professional level of knowledge regarding narcissistic and borderline personality pathology. This is not optional knowledge. It is knowledge required for professional competence in assessment, diagnosis, and treatment of pathology.
The narcissistic personality lies. It lies a lot. It lies all the time. And it’s delusional.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857
In words , so beautifully articulated a love letter arrived and I must share.
Everything will be alright , if this I am sure . I am currently experiencing a tempered transformation, thankfully , for I have maintained, even in the worst of times , I have erred , I have moved forward , with tools provided by loving hands , gently voices, tuff live and fear based examples from with in and without. A recent living waking dream , albeit with a short shelf life …taught me well.
A cycle has indeed ended for all of us…Constriction, of your truth leads to much harm … I was abled to transform a very heavy negative , with accumulated experiences , folks who are generous in their smiles, eye contact , hugs , a knowing of trials of life , in a circle …never unbroken .
My heart is beyond joy, as a Dream Weaver , to several beloveds , current and past and several blood relatives who have space , and are ready as am I…Shift .
I am where I want to be. I am becoming the person I can live with in harmony , born of much loss…as knowledge gifted , and earned articulated , my credo more than resurrected and refined , I can more accurately be who I am.. be more centered , listen more , as I read this the 1st time I read the post , I was listening to Joni Mitchell sing Clouds .
Earlier tonight I posted on FB , pictures of my afternoon experience
Watching clouds , taking pictures , just being in my loneness, but not lonely .
To me this is LIBERATION , a more inclusive FREEDOM.
I had a long conversation and an email in the last 24 hours that allowed me to acknowledge weak spots , and dealing with em with highest of intents .
Hope Does Indeed Float !
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You are busily adjusting to new emotions, physical shifts, and intellectual AHAs. Throughout this phase, you will likely feel like an emotional yo-yo.
Even though you are physically, emotionally, and intellectually quite able to integrate these pieces into a new whole, at times, you will feel as if you are on extreme overload. For not only are you shifting throughout your being, so are those of 3D, creating chaos that may seem overwhelming.
Our past messages indicated that those wishing to remain of 3D would be even more adamant about displaying 3D emotions and actions – while those beginning to shift and those of you at the forefront would slip from 3D control.
It is a time of 3D destruction. The phase that follows, which begins after the July 2018 eclipses, is that of the 5D rebuild.
As that rebuild begins, you will often feel as if it is hopeless, as if those with 5D or beyond intentions will never be stronger than those solidly enmeshed in 3D. But day by day you will begin to see progress occurring within hours instead of years or decades. For large groups and communities will turn their backs, so to speak, on 3D control. Forcing those of 3D control to fight back dramatically until their fight seems to be a parody or comedy of life as the world moves into love and joy.
Even though such does not seem possible today, it will happen.
So let us turn to your shifts of the next few days. Your emotions, even your physicality will experience wide swings. Not to punish you but instead created by you to determine who you are.
As has always been true of earth beings – even though you are evolving, you continue to be an earth being – you find it difficult to select something without experiencing it to some degree. So your emotional, intellectual, and physical swings the next few days are helping you choose you.
You will find yourself knowing that you like that, but not this. So it is you are rebuilding you.
Imagine the next few days as the difference between building a crude mud hut, as was true in your 3D world, or creating a home of extreme personal beauty and pleasure. For the hut protected you from the elements but did not satisfy your inner need for beauty and self-care.
You are creating yourself anew and are doing so not out of fear as you have for eons, but of joy and fun – your new creation components.
Your question the next few days is “Who am I?” Once you determine that, you will expand your energy to help those reconfiguring structures.
As has always been true, you are the key component to creating something perfect for you. Then and only then, you will expand those energies to create for the masses – either physically or through energy sharing.
Before this transition, the masses were more important than the individual. Masses controlled in fear by a few.
New Earth and new you are exactly opposite for if you allow or encourage others to control you, you are merely exchanging one 3D world for another; allowing someone to determine what is good for you based on what is most rewarding for them.
In 3D, the question of who you are was voiced but never acted upon for those in control could not have you declaring complete freedom. So you continued lifetime after lifetime changing the rules here and there but always under the control of someone’s dictates.
For the first time on earth, you are claiming your self-contained being and doing so by adding segments of your past, present, and future beings. The next few days are merely you creating a new whole from the segments or colors you now have available.
Thinking in terms of each segment having unique skills and therefore colors, you are creating a new you painting of great pleasure. Some of you will discover that you prefer watercolors to oil paints and others different mediums but all creating images easily changeable until you create the perfect image, blending colors, or discarding this and that much as someone creating a sculpture would.
Exploring those new skills will be your chaos of the next few days. Putting a bit here, painting or cutting over it, selecting another color, emotion, entity, or segment until it is just right.
So it is the next few days, you will be revamping all your personal bits and pieces into the complete being required for your new you role of joy. Do not be frightened anymore than is true for an actor testing how to best present his or her lines, a sculptor cutting away the stone, or a painter testing images and colors.
You are creating you in every joyful way possible. Even though doing so may seem a bit frightening for it is a change without an earth precedent. Allow it to be without fear. So be it. Amen.
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