Addiction doc says: It’s not the drugs. It’s the ACEs…adverse childhood experiences. « ACEs Too High

He says: Addiction shouldn’t be called “addiction”. It should be called “ritualized compulsive comfort-seeking”. He says: Ritualized compulsive comfort-seeking (what traditionalists call addiction) is a normal response to the adversity experienced in childhood, just like bleeding is a normal response to being stabbed. He says: The solution to changing the illegal or unhealthy ritualized compulsive comfort-seeking behavior…
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Peace and goodwill to all? How to avoid arguments on Christmas Day according to a relationship counsellor | The Independent

Most of us have been there. Despite good intentions, Christmas gets taken over by an ongoing family feud or a row that erupts out of nowhere when you’re preparing the brandy butter.
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Childress , Change is here❤️ our children matter , we matter

My goodness, I’ve been busy recently. There are some interesting things in the works, I’ll tell you all about it… later.
We’ve covered a lot of ground recently, in the latter part of 2018, and 2019 is looking to be a powerful year of change.  Before launching into the next round, I want to take a moment and recap where where are.
This pathology is designed to traumatize you, the parent.  The statement “This isn’t about you, it’s about the child” is a lie.  This is all about you.  The child is being used as an instrument to traumatize you.
You do not need to prove pathology in court.  The pathogen (through its allies in professional psychology) got you doing the most impossible thing imaginable – proving an impossibly weak definition of a “new form of pathology” (“parental alienation”) by the standards of legal evidence… in the courtroom, at trial.
That’s nuts.  We don’t prove schizophrenia or bipolar disorder or ADHD by trial in our legal system.  What is everybody doing that for?  That’s completely nuts.
We diagnose pathology.  A clinical psychologist applies the standard and established knowledge of professional psychology – including and especially the knowledge of the DSM-5 diagnostic system – and we diagnose pathology.
When we do that with the pathology in your families, the DSM-5 diagnosis is V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse.  See how that works?  You don’t need to prove a pathology in court.  If the other party disagrees with a diagnosis; get a second opinion.  Simple.  That’s still not proving pathology in a trial.
What are people doing litigating the existence of the pathology?  It’s the red pill.  They have you doing the MOST impossible thing imaginable in order to have a relationship with your children.
So in 2019 we are going to be rolling out several alternative “legal argument packages” designed to extract parents and families from the family courts and return you to… clinical psychology, and to prevent new families from entering the family court system of conflict and litigation.
The pathology is about you, it’s designed to traumatize you.  You don’t need to prove pathology in court (you just need professional competence in diagnosis).
What else have we shifted?
This is a trauma pathology.  Up until now, I’ve only had three lines open; attachment, family systems therapy, and personality pathology.  But the core line of the pathology is trauma, this is a trauma pathology.
Now that the trauma line is open, there’s so much that now becomes available.
The biggest thing this opens is availability to your allies in professional psychology – the trauma people.
Forensic psychology are your captors and your abusers.  We are not going to reform forensic psychology, we are going to get you help from the outside; clinical psychology, trauma, attachment, personality disorder… cultural psychology… psychometrics… ethics… we’re going to be seeking allies from outside.
Forensic psychology, there is shame coming for your years of ignorance and incompetence, and for your collusion in the emotional and psychological abuse of these parents.  Accountability is coming – there is NO reason why Bowlby-Minuchin-Beck-van der Kolk and the DSM-5 diagnostic systems should not (and have not) been applied.
Standards of professional practice are on the way (Curriculum Knowledge Checklist).
AB-PA represents a trauma-informed assessment and diagnosis of severe family conflict pathology. The High Road is a trauma-informed workshop for the restoration of damaged parent-child relationships.  Higher Purpose Parenting is a trauma informed parenting curriculum for the restoration of damaged parent-child relationships. Trauma-informed practice.
You own the APA ethics code: Standards 2.01a, 3.04, 9.01a, 2.03, and the “duty to protect” to leverage professional competence in the assessment, diagnosis, and treatment of your children and families.
You own the DSM-5: A confirmed DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse when an appropirate clinical psychology assessment of pathology is conducted.
You own the established knowledge of professional psychology: Bowlby, Minuchin, Beck, van der Kolk (attachment – family systems therapy – personality disorder pathology – complex trauma).  You own the knowledge base of professional psychology; it’s yours.
We are going to extract families from the legal system.
Parents, attorneys, and the court now have two alternatives to a $20,000-$40,000 forensic child custody evaluation, the Custody Resolution Method (CRM) for tagging and organizing large amounts of documented evidence data (such as reports, emails, texts, etc), and a six-session clinical psychology assessment of attachment-related family pathology surrounding divorce.  Alternatives.
That’s solution.  Change means doing things differently.  If we do things the same, nothing changes. Things need to change.
Change seems new at first, but then it becomes familiar, then it’s not new, then it’s just the solution – this coming year of 2019 is a year of change.
We are going to bring this nightmare for parents and children to an end, we are going to restore bonds of love between children and parents, and we are going to create the solution for all children everywhere.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857

The Narcissistic Family Tree | Psychology Today

Clinical experience and research show that adult children of narcissists have a difficult time putting their finger on what is wrong. Denial is rampant in the narcissistic family system.
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