Let’s talk about sex, masturbation, pornography. celibacy, and increasing vital health..
This is a set of topics I’ve wanted to bring into my work for a long time as it pertains immensely to all areas of physical vitality, psycho-emotional-spiritual wellbeing, and living a longevity focused lifestyle…
First of all, let me be clear that this post is not about shaming sexuality or masturbation because that would be extraordinarily contradictory of me to do yet it is to release the imprints of shame, guilt, and wounding that occurs from the unconscious and excessive repetition of sexual gratification, particularly masturbation among men, as a way to discharge tension without realizing the physical and mental health detriments that occur as a result..
This is coming up for me because my soul made it loud and clear that in order for me to step into my next stage of evolution and leadership I needed to go into a phase of celibacy and seminal retention to build back the vital life force that has been released over two decades as well as regroup my energy back into myself as I had allowed myself to give my precious time, energy, resources, and life force to women through out my life without feeling reciprocated, nourished, or fulfilled to any great degree..
There are so many angles to approach this from but let me simply communicate to all the men who follow my work…
We have been raised within a spiritual battleground disguised as the modern world we are accustomed too. From the day we were born we were sexually assaulted by doctors in white trench coats who circumcised our most intimate body part and due to this we subconsciously began to distrust the feminine(our mother) for allowing us to be mutilated upon entering this earth yet have no memory of it and thus the intense trauma was stored in our subconscious which has influenced our behavior ever since..
In our search of connection and reclamation of the innocence we lost we tried to validate the value of our existence through the feminine and eventually with the introduction of pornography we began to gratify our repressed sexual urges which inhibited our development, weakened our cognitive intelligence, misinformed us about sacred sexuality, and created divisions of further repressed guilt, shame, and existential confusion..
Without any rights of passage in our culture for men the Peter Pan perpetual child syndrome persists and without aligning ones life to a deep sense of meaning and purpose all of the innovation, creativity, and resourcefulness begins to get stimulated in the testicular glands, builds tension, and is released in the form of 500 million sperm cells which all have the potential to create a newborn baby..
It has been known for thousands of years that when a man repetitively releases his seeds he also loses elements of his DNA 🧬 including micronutrients, trace minerals, essential fatty acids, testosterone, growth hormone, stem cells, and our Jing/Ojas life force energy and its well known that the seminal fluids are generated from the bone marrow and depths of our spinal column which can lead to lower back pain, decrease intelligence, erectile dysfunction, adrenal/thyroid issues, testosterone/estrogen imbalances, and a whole list of emotion issues like lowered confidence, self esteem issues, and lowered will power/ambition..
As for the practice of celibacy this now becomes a hugely important consideration because through the indoctrination of pornography we have set up psychological dopamine based wiring or neuro-associative patterns that are based on intense stimulus of sexual arousal which leads to sex or more likely masturbation and creates a repetitive feedback loop that is one of the most intense drug like addictions and has grave consequences for a mans mental-emotional wellbeing and his ability to maintain a healthy relationship with another human being..
The time alone, in meditation, reflection, pattern breaking, and focusing all of a mans faculties on his purpose is nothing short of breaking a drug addiction and in order to evolve from these deeply trauma based behaviors he must be willing to break the addiction to seeking validation from women all together and source his own validation and sense of self which is why asking for support from men and women in our lives is so important, especially if a man is involved with a women it’s important to take the necessary space and time to realign himself otherwise the patterns persist and lead to devastation…
It’s been my experience that this can be the most uncomfortable process but through faith, prayer, focus, support, nutrition, and being in nature the energy that was lost prior to sexual impulses is now redirected into goals, businesses, purpose, healthy relationships, meaningful friendships, and experiencing total fulfillment in all areas of life..
It is indeed time for the men to rise and meet the rising feminine but if we continue to destabilize ourselves, knock ourselves down, weaken ourselves, and allow the misfortune of the world to persist simply because we can’t overcome our own addictive patterns rooted in masculine trauma then how will we ever rise to protect and provide for the feminine and how can the feminine truly feel safe and protected if we cannot even protect our own seeds that create life.. 🙏
This is an open ended conversation and I invite all perspectives and input.. these are only a snapshot of my overall perspective which I’m sure I’ll put into a book and coaching program at some point